Mum criticised for excluding bully from son’s party after inviting rest of class
One mum was shocked to receive a slew of abuse from a fellow parent after she refused entry to one of the boys in her son’s classroom, after he had previously bullied him
Birthday parties for children can be surprisingly political – especially when parents don’t simply invite the entire class.
At the end of the day, it’s meant to be a fun occasion, rather than an awkward arrangement.
One mum left people divided recently after refusing entry to her son’s classmate after he had previously bullied him.
Lots of people felt it was the right move – as she was trying to protect her son and ensure it was a good day.
But others felt she’d overreacted – and the son’s aunt let her know in no uncertain terms that she felt she had acted like an “a**hole.”
The baffled mum took to Reddit on the Am I the A thread, to see if she had acted unreasonably.
Her son has just turned eight, and he invited his class to a party at his house, including his pal Kyle.
But the mum hadn’t realised that he was cousins with Josh – another student, who has been hassling her son at school.
So it was awkward when Josh turned up, uninvited, along with Kyle – prompting the mum to make a swift decision.
She wrote: “Josh has been s* to my son for a while now. The poor kid has gone through a lot. His baby sister died, then his dad leaves him and his mom.
“My son has a baby brother and he has both me and my husband (his dad) still in the one home.
“So he has become a target for Josh’s hurt and anger. I spoke to the teacher and she said she was doing everything to correct Josh and protect my son.
“Then in May, their school decided to test out going back in person learning all day. While there Josh was nasty to my son.”
So when Josh arrived – the mum decided he wasn’t allowed to attend the party.
“So anyway, Kyle’s mom showed up to the party Saturday with Josh. I was confused. Asked what was going on.
“She explained he was her nephew, etc, etc, and she was hoping it would help everyone if he was included since everything going on.
“I said no way. That he was not invited and given the way he treats my son he was not coming in. She argued with me but I stood firm.
“She and I got along well before this but now she’s saying I was an a**hole to a little boy and should have shown kindness and understanding.
“My son freaked out when he saw Josh at our house and asked if he was staying. He was so relieved he wasn’t.”
On Reddit, a lot of people agreed with the mum’s stance.
One wrote: “Your son is not responsible for Josh’s problems nor is he responsible to take the brunt of them.”
Another added: “It’s astonishingly cruel to show up to a birthday party with the birthday person’s bully in tow.
“This woman knew what her nephew had been doing to your son. This was not about Josh. This was your son’s day and you did the right thing.”